Wednesday, 18 July 2012

Photo speak (Album I)


Work in progress
Personalities, memories, milestones, adventures etc etc from family albums started by Bapu ji, Giani Harchand Singh Bassian of Malaysia.  Recent prompt by youngest brother Dya Singh of Oz when visiting UK in July 2012.

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In the beginning:

Bebay ji (Harminder Kaur)


&

Bapu ji (1909 to 1975) preparing "Bassian" photo albums (1969)






With Malaysian students in London 1968.
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Ardaas : Laying foundation of new Gurdwara- Baba Sohan Singh (Malaca) & Bapu ji 
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Photos not in any order.
Scholars: At least I was with them, if not one of them!
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"Distortion of history, Dr Rahi ? Is that not what the rulers always do?"  

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Top of Ayer's Rock, Central Oz. (Sacred Uluru)
Baldev & Gurmukh

& someone making an excuse that Uluru Rock is too sacred to climb!


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A "sant" gainfully employed for a change ! 

"Now, TV wala sahib, if all sants follow in this sant's footsteps, less damage would be done to Sikh heritage, and Punjab would smell fresher !"


 "Thank you for your advice Sardar Sahib.  Here is a siropa !"


The forgotten hero of Indian independence: General Mohan Singh Indian National Army.

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World of religion:





"Its OK! He is singing Oz version of Sri Raag."





With Classical Maestro Giani Darshan Singh Sohal (Almast Ghrana): "World music, Giani ji; not khichri raag !"












 
Jathedar Vedanti, Giani Gurbakhsh Singh Gulshan: "Here is THE Sikh Reht Maryada - do read it sometime!"

Gurmat Gian Missionary College, Ludhiana
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Sikh identity


Malay, Chinese, Tamil & Sikh:  Message on the back of the photo received: "To Zulu, With best wishes, Yrs. sincerely, Koo Kian Tin."
(But Zulu the artist, is missing: King Edward VII Taiping, Malaysia 1957)

French Dastaar & French Sikh students

 Europe (Geneva 1986)

Cologne (1994): Transonic Wind-tunnel Project
Cllr Baldev Singh Dhaliwal JP in Oz (Riverland Council)

South Australia
&
in London Ken Livingstone




Lord Slim & Lord King : "You mean the "Forgotten Army" - not the "sleeping army"!



May 2007: Baroness Amos, Leader of the House of Lords
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Returning him to you Mrs Singh ! (June 1996)


Harpal Batala Christian College 1960
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Justice of Peace in Oz  - peak view!


Never mind the peak.  Look at the view from here!

In progress
"From "Bassian" family albums.

Gurmukh Singh
May be used with acknowledgement.










Thursday, 12 July 2012

Gauri Raag by Bibia(n) of Gurmat Gian Group


Gaori Raag sulakhni je Khasmai chit karae.
Gauri Raag is auspicious when it induces meditative contemplation of the Lord. (SGGS Ang 11)

(Also published as "Singing in Raag Gauri" article on Sikhchic and Sikhnet
http://www.sikhchic.com/music/singing_in_raag_gauri 
http://www.sikhnet.com/news/singing-raag-gauri  )

(Note: Some passing knowledge of Gurbani keertan terms has been assumed.)

I first wrote about keertan by “Soul brides of our beloved Guru” in August 2009 for Sikh Times UK.
(Article also on this blogspot at
http://www.sewauk.blogspot.co.uk/2010/05/sikh-music-gurbani-kirtan-by-gurmat.html  )

Dr Manbir Singh had forwarded me Gurmat Gian Group’s blogspot with the introduction, “Welcome to Kirtan by Young Sikh Women Musicians of Gurmat Gian Group. Enjoy this Shabad Video.”

On hearing the keynote Shabad, “Oha prem piri” by the Group, trained and led by Bibi Gurpreet Kaur, I became deeply interested in this remarkable initiative at Ludhiana, in central Punjab. More so on reading about the classical keertan background of Bibi Gurpreet Kaur, daughter of a Brigadier surgeon, himself an accomplished classical keertania. Bibi ji is the wife of Dr Manbir Singh, who runs a hospital at Raikot in district Ludhiana, and is the co-ordinator of the Group at Gurmat Gian Missionary College, Ludhiana.

In these recordings, deep spirituality of Ardaas is felt in shabads like "Hey sansaar taap harnay" (GGS:1358). Angelic voices sing in perfect harmony to effortless changes in taal (beat).

This was also the time when the ongoing debate about keertan by women jathas at Darbar Sahib had heated up once again. Despite some outstanding exceptions, traditional keertan rassias (meditative listeners) remain unimpressed by the poor quality of all-male jathas, hardly conversant with classical raags, and mostly untrained in the vocal art of singing to traditional string instruments (taanti saaj).

After producing a number of group audio CDs, Bibi Gurpreet ji accomplished a most challenging classical keertan project by recording 31 shudh (pure) raags of Guru Granth Sahib as a 6-CDs set, “Raag Ratan”. She was accompanied by her daughter, Keerat Kaur, in this project. To my knowledge, this was the first such recording by Sikh women keertanias.

Next in line was an even more ambitious project:, the recording of different Gauri Raag combinations with other raags. This project has now been completed as “Gauri Sagar” recording – a 3-CDs set - by Bibi Gurpreet Kaur and her daughter, Bibi Keerat Kaur.

This is a major milestone achievement in the evolution of classical Gurbani keertan , which has attracted the attention of widely acclaimed Keertanias like Bhai Nirmal Singh. Bhai Sahib has written a glowing report about the Group’s achievements to date in the Punjabi Tribune of 5 June 2012.

There is more Bani in Raag Gauri, the third raag in Guru Granth Sahib, than any other.

There are also more raag varieties in Gauri than any other raag in Guru Granth Sahib. Including the Shudh Gauri there are 12 forms of the Raag. The 11 mishrit (mixedt) varieties are : Gauri Bairagan, Gauri Guaraeree , Gauri Chaetee, Gauri Poorbi, , Gauri Deepki, Gauri Poorbi Deepki, Gauri Bhi Sorath Bhi, Gauri Malwa, Gauri Maajh, Gauri Mala, and Gauri Dakhnee.

According to Principal Dyal Singh of Gurmat Vidyala Gurdwara Sri Rakab Ganj, some raag combinations with Gauri, like raags Bairagan, Deepki, Maajh, Mala and , Malva are unique to Guru Granth Sahib, and there is no mention of these in Indian classical or modern music literature.

According to Sant Sarwan Singh Gandharb, it is not possible to sing Gauri Raag without formal and prolonged tuition by an ustaad of classical raags. In its exposition, it is important to distinguish Gauri from Bhairo, as the notes of Gauri are the same as those of Bhairo Raag. When singing, it is difficult to separate these two raags. In addition, raag Kalingra is also hovering in the vicinity at the higher notes.

On first listening to “Gauri Sagar”, I felt that some appreciation of the technical aspects would generate deeper interest and make the experience more meaningful.

In notes higher than “pa” (pancham) of madh saptak (middle octave), “there is a danger of Raag Kalingra embracing it”! (Sarwan Singh). There is much controversy about even Shudh Gauri. Gauri is best enjoyed up to “pa” (pancham) note of madh saptak with continual stress on “ni” (nikhaad) of mandar saptak (lower octave). The raag belongs to the Bhairo mainstream (tthaath) sung in the morning. As is usual with raag schools, there is some controversy about the stress notes (vaadi and samvadi):, some opting for “ma” (madham) as the main key with “sa” (sharaj) as the supporting key. Others opt for “ray” (rishab) and “pa” (pancham) combination.

Bibi Gurpreet had some reservation about the need to know the basics of raag, when she wrote back, “I feel, keeping the basics and intricacies of raags is the duty and work of keertanias and for sangat to just enjoy the message of Gurubani.” Nevertheless, she did send a sort of guided tour of the deep “Gauri Sagar” ! Otherwise, perhaps too deep even for experienced listeners of classical keertan.

She wrote, “These compositions and singing style are a departure from routine pattern of singing of today which is getting dull and monotonous. I agree after listening to "Padtaal Shabad Gaiki" - a 7-Cd collection - by some well known keertanias like Dr Gurnam Singh, Bhai Nirmal Singh, Prof Kartar Singh, "Singh  Bandhu" Surinder Singh and some others.

Continued Bibi Gurpreet ji, "If we see around it is not uncommon to find the same monotony of teen taal whenever there is a performance based on raags. We are trying to break this monotony by singing in various, not so common, taals and presenting raag based keertan in various shayees like dhrupad, khayal and thumari ...In Gauri Sagar we have used taals like: Matta(9), Sool taal(10), Shikhar taal(17), Rudra taal(11) along with Roopak, Keharva and Teen taal. As in the first shabad of CD1 ‘Bin Bhagavant Naahee An Koae’ a combination of Matta (9) & Keharava (8) is used, which is a very rare combination and to my knowledge hardly anyone must have used.”

I used to joke about “mishrit raags” with Dya Singh of Australia, treating most of his “world music” tunes as “mishrit raags! That was due to my misunderstanding of what a mishrit raag is. A mishrit raag is certainly not  a DIY (do-it-yourself ) "khichri" raag! But no longer is there any doubt about the complexity of a mishrit raag, after reading the following, also supported by those like Sant Sarwan Singh Gandharb.

Wrote Bibi Gurpreet ji, “A major difference between Sudh Raags of Raag Ratan and Mishrit Raags of Gauri Sagar is that these mishrit raags are tougher and difficult raags and to compose in these raags is always a challenge. Like, for example Raag Gauri Poorbi Deepki CD1, 5th Shabad, which is a combination of three raag - Gauri, Poorbi and Deepki. The Shabad in the raag is ‘Tum Gaavoh Maerae Nirbhao Kaa Sohila’ Now, the composition for this shabad had to be made very simple for singing as this shabad is on the lips of everybody. For this shabad we used pakhavaj (small drum) 8 beats to give the feel of singing in older times when pakavaj was used, and by mixing pakhavaj with contemporary music gives a feel of a new style.”

The mystery of Shabad “ Tum Gaavoh Maerae Nirbhao Kaa Sohila ” being sung twice is solved. The Shabad is mentioned in Sri Guru Granth Sahib at two places Ang 12 and Ang 157 with minor differences, under different raags: Gauri Deepki and Gauri Poorbi Deepki. In the 3rd CD, the last Shabad ‘Tum Gaavoh Maerae Nirbhao Kaa Sohila’ is in Gauri Deepki. It has been sung in Shikhar Taal (17) beats, an uncommon beat.

“Gauri Sagar” is recommended for the more mature listener of deeply spiritual classical Gurbani keertan. Ordinary listener is immediately moved by some Shabads like “Dukh bhanjan Tera Naam ji” in Raag Gauri Maajh.

I feel that some distracting repetition, and what seemed like unnecessary protraction of Shabads, could have been avoided to make the listening experience even more enjoyable. Nevertheless, there is much here for dedicated student listeners of classical keertan.

My own interest in this Group has two aspects. Firstly, the male-biased keertan politics, which keeps women kirtanias out of Darbar Sahib. With an increasing number of accomplished Sikh women keertanias, there should be no excuse for saying that there are very few women singers.


Secondly, singing, poetry and art are important qualifications for the proverbial “batees sulakhni” role of a successful housewife in a family. I believe that for the enrichment and progress of Sikh religio-cultural heritage, girls, especially from middle and upper socio-economic backgrounds, should take up classical keertan for developing more rounded personalities, and as good investment for married life and motherhood.

We get glimpses of such women in Indian and Sikh cultural traditions. Sardar Jassa Singh Ahluwalia's mother was an accomplished Gurbani keertania who did keertan at Darbar Sahib (Sakhi, "Shah kahayo Jassa Singh Kalal", Sri Guru Panth Parkaash p.290, Published by Sikh Ithaas Research Board, SGPC.)  

By recording 31 shudh raags of Guru Granth Sahib as “Raag Ratan” and the Gauri Raag and its 11 mixed varieties as “Gauri Sagar”, Bibi Gurpreet Kaur and her gifted daughter, Keerat Kaur, have already secured a place of honour in the Gurbani Keertan tradition. Keerat Kaur is now married and lives in America and receives sangat’s blessing by doing keertan at local gurdwara in Atlanta city.

Bibi Gurpreet Kaurs teaches keertan at Gurmat Gian Missionary College. Like earlier keertan recordings, we look forward to more keertan by her with her girl students in future.

Gurmukh Singh
E-mail: sewauk2005@yahoo.co.uk

©Gurmukh Singh

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Friday, 1 June 2012

Sport & Health in Sikh Faith



(Based on author's notes for powerpoint presentation at Peterborough Inter-Faith Council on 20 May 2012)

" A living spirit possesses the whole Sikh people, and the impress of Gobind has not only elevated and altered the constitution of their minds, but has operated materially and given amplitude to their physical frames. The features and external form of a whole people have been modified......"
(J. D Cunningham, History of the Sikhs p.75  1985 edition, S. Chand & Co New Delhi)

Human body is God's mansion:  Fauja Singh Age 101 to carry the Olympic Torch on 21 July 2012.
(In front of St Paul's Cathedral, London, UK). 

“This human body is the God’s temple,
wherein is revealed the jewel of Divine comprehension.”
(Sikh holy scripture, Guru Granth Sahib page 1346)

The Sikh prayer is for mental and physical health - “Mann tann arog”
(Guru Granth Sahib page 807

There are numerous references in Guru Granth Sahib stressing mind-body harmony (link); and that physical ailments can be overcome through meditation. 

“O’ my mind, you are the embodiment of Divine Light, know your Source.”
(Guru Granth Sahib page 441)

Mind can activate the body through “udham” which is continual impulse to exert oneself.  Sikh social activism is based on the oft repeated themes of udham, ghaal and Nadar .  Very simply, ghaal is sustained udham which leads to Nadar, the realisation of the goal of human life through the Grace of the Creator in this life. 

Sikh faith is less concerned with hereafter, except as a reminder that this life is a passing phase in the evolution of the human soul. Look after here and now, remain in ascending positive spirit (chardhi kalla), and hereafter will look after itself!  

The Creator resides in nature and is ever fresh and strong - Nit nava(n) naroa. One close to God, attains God attributes through constant God awareness by remaining ever fresh and full of energy and vitality.

Food and lifestyle are important aspects of Sikh teachings. Moderation in eating, prohibition of alcohol and use of drugs, and; moderate sleep are recommended.  Otherwise, other than specific and strict prohibition of the use of tobacco, there are few taboos in the Sikh faith. Some prefer to misinterpret “moderation” in Sikh teachings to assume that, except for total ban on smoking, moderation in eating, drinking and sleeping is a matter for personal interpretation!

Sikh faith is based on Guru Nanak’s twin track “miri-piri” (temporal-spiritual) life-affirming ideology.

This life style extends to socio-political activism (service) in this life, while remaining detached in God awareness in God’s Will (Hukam or Rza).  One important aspect of this ideology is living an active life in the service of the community and God’s creation.

The ultimate spiritual goal of this life is to attain a state of equipoise (sehaj avastha or anad) while remaining immersed in God awareness; and actively serving creation.

Guru Nanak’s “miri-piri” religio-social ideology gave rise to the holy congregation (sangat), community kitchen (sharing); and, sewa i.e. a pecualiarly Sikh spiritual aspect which promotes Sikh socio-political activism while remaining humble and not expecting any reward. Such an ideology demands an active life style in which mind/body health and physical fitness are important.

Sikhs started taking a keen interest in physical fitness and sports during the early 10 Guru-person period (1469 to 1708). Games and exerices associated with Punjab – the land of Five Rivers - included:  wrestling, probably games like some older version of kabadi, horse riding, lancing the peg, gatka for exercise and self defence, leading on to Sikh marshal arts tradition.

The names of  Nanak II: Guru Angad (Guruship 1539 - 1552) and Baba Budha (1506–1631) who was
blessed with long life by Guru Nanak, are associated with physical exercises and training in self defence.
Guru Angad established the “akhara” – sports arena - next to the gurdwara. The Guru himself taught the art of wrestling.


Guru Anagad Sahib

Baba Buddha Ji (1506–1631); blessed by the first six Gurus, taught physical fitness and martial arts.


Gatka – Hand and footwork exercise with sticks:


Gatka as marshal art

With the heritage of miri-piri ideolgy of Guru Nanak interpreted into physical fitness; and, body and mind harmony

Sikhs extended their skills to western sports.
There have been many outstanding Sikh Olympians in sports like: hockey, cricket, athletics and wrestling.




broke the world 400 meters record at Rome Olympics 1960



132 Sikhs have played hockey at Olympic Games since 1928 representing 9 countries:

Canada, Britain, Hong Kong, India, Kenya, Malaysia, Singapore, Tanzania & Uganda


Balbir Singh 'Senior', scored five goals in Helsinki on 24th July 1952 when India defeated Holland 6 -1

Balbir Singh Senior was  member of three Olympic gold medal winning teams, in London (1948), Helsinki (1952) and Melbourne (1956).


Kabadi - a popular Sikh sport which tests strength and agility.
 
Sikhs have made a name in cricket also:



Monty Panesar of UK

Monty Panesar (middle) discussing "Sikh identity in sports" with  Gurmukh Singh SEWA (red turban)


Gurmukh Singh UK
Sikh Education Welfare & Advancement (SEWA)
e-mail: sewauk2005@yahoo.co.uk
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Wednesday, 30 May 2012

Reviving the Sarbut Khalsa Tradition

(Gurmukh Singh, London, United Kingdom)

(Article published by "Sikhchic" and The Sikh Review (August 2012) 

The decision making tradition of Sarbat Khalsa was evolved during the first half of the 18th Century. It is likely to be revived and further developed through seminars like those arranged by the Sikh Research Institute and supported by the Sikh Council UK over the weekend of June 16 and 17, 2012.  The main event on Sunday 17 June, will be at The Oxford Union, University of Oxford.

The background is the need to promote the decision making process within umbrella Sikh organisations like the Sikh Council UK, by learning from the model of Sarbat Khalsa evolved during the first half of the 18th Century. This is only possible by understanding what the concept means in this day and age. For example, which decisions need to be taken by consensus and which can be taken by the senior office holders of Sikh institutions and organisations, on their own.

Are there historical examples when Sarbat Khalsa did not deliver a consensus based decision? Are there some current examples when the consensus based approach would have been helpful? Some possible examples are: the Nanakshahi Calendar issue, the Shaheedi memorial at Darbar Sahib, and the case of Balwant Singh Rajoana.

Akal Takhat Sahib invited organisations and individuals to give views and many organisations in the diaspora, including the Sikh Council UK, did that in writing. However, it was never made clear how consensus was reached. Similarly people are now being invited to comment on the Anand Marriage Act without being clear about how the information will be used.

My interim response (below) to some similar queries following a short column article in UK's Panjab Times weekly, is based on a study of the 18th Century trials and tribulations of the Khalsa Panth, also remembered in the daily Sikh supplication (Ardaas).

Sarbut Khalsa is an expression of Panthic solidarity. That is so even when there are internal disagreements. In the 18th Century Khalsa freedom struggle, despite internal disagreement about whether or not to invade the well fortified city of Kasur, (triggered by the appeal of a Brahmin whose wife was in the Nawab’s captivity) the overriding concern was for Panthic unity and it ensured final victory. (The campaign is well described in Sardar Ratan Singh Bhangu’s Sri Guru Panth Prakash under the heading “Saakhi Prithmai Kasur Maarnai ki” in the year 1760 CE).

To my mind, Sarbat Khalsa is not, in itself, the decision making mechanism but an important end product of the consultation process. Things have become much more complicated in the 21st Century, but we also have the tools and skills to do research and base discussions and decisions on that research. Success or failure would depend on the quality of the research (equivalent to field intelligence in the 18th Century freedom struggle) and the spirit of working together for the ascendancy of the Khalsa Panth (Panth di chardhi kalla).

Great Khalsa personalities like Nawab Kapur Singh, played an important catalytic role in the Sarbut Khalsa tradition without detracting from the grassroots (Sangat) consensus aspect in decision making. Their own "authority" for decision making on their own as leaders or “office holders”, was residual. It grew in proportion to the respect and trust they won over a period of time.

These great leaders of leaders, were also talent spotters and promoted leadership qualities in those around them. Jassa Singh Ahluwallia was a stable boy at Darbar Sahib and was spotted by Nawab Kapur Singh. At some point in Sikh history, this “stable boy” in the service of the Khalsa warriors, sat on the throne of Hindostan. Other sardars grew in stature during this period through what can only be described as "team-working" by equals; very independent minded Khalsa personalities. The very mention of the names of those like Sardar Baghel Singh sent a shiver down the spines of hardened Mugal warriors and rulers.

In the modern context, we can draw lessons from the Khalsa field strategy of 18th Century. Consensus is achieved through factual information gathering on a topic or campaign (field intelligence). Draft proposal is based on that information. Consultation and drafting changes are made and final approval is given by Sangat representatives. Success or failure depends on the quality of the intelligence gathered. If the first draft "proposal" is not refused at the outset, then there is a good chance of the proposal or plan of action being adopted in due course, following discussion.

A draft proposal in today’s world, pre-supposes a research panels of Sikh scholars in diverse fields and policy experts. Regrettably, Sikh institutions, including successive Akal Takht jathedars, have failed in this respect. For that reason, we are where we are today.

Taking decisions on the basis of a Jaikara  i.e. a Sikh religious slogan started by some one in a loud voice "Bolay so nihaal" and responded to in unison by those gathered "Sat Sri Akal",  is a sure recipe for failure. A Jaikara interrupting a katha or Sangat presentation, should be regarded as an insult to (i.e. be-adbi of) the Sangat and the Guru. A Jaikaras should only be allowed towards the conclusion of proceedings, following the Ardaas.

Today, organisations are started by dedicated community activists with a desire to do something for the community. To start with, these activists are content to call themselves “nishkam sevadars”. Regrettably, in the Sikh community, the desire to lead has a tendency to become permanent due to personal ambition. In fact, such is this desire to lead and remain in control that the original aims of organisations to remain part of the Khalsa Panth by working towards Panth di Chardhi Kalla, are forgotten.

Also, with one person assuming almost dictatorial role, it means that those with ability and diverse skills are kept away. The single “leader” surrounds himself with sycophantic poodles! Without genuine team-working of equals, an organisation becomes entirely dependent on one person. Such organisations are starved of fresh ideas and the complementary skills needed in today’s world. They have no continuity and run into the sands when the singleton “leader” is no longer active, or passes away.

The approach of organisations started and “owned” by permanent leaders, is “top down”. That is not the Khalsa way. All gurudoms, deras and sant sampardais automatically fall into this category because they have one "spiritual" head whose command is the law for the followers (chelas). Of course, there is need for men and women with outstanding abilities and skills; but the Khalsa way is the Sangat (congregational) way  i.e. grassroots or “down-upwards” in the Sarbat Khalsa tradition, perfected during the most challenging period in Sikh history. The foundation for this approach had been laid during the person-Guru period (1469 to 1708) and perfected by Guru Gobind Singh.

Organisations have specific aims and objectives. One individual or organisation cannot possibly cover all aspects of a community’s needs. That means that at national and global levels, there will always be a need for co-ordinating umbrella organisations. Every Sikh organisation, including gurdwaras, the centres of Sikh community life and holders of Sangat’s funds, must accept that need for national and international level representation of Sikh issue and concerns. More so the organisations founded and led by individuals, who, otherwise, would have done much for the community in different fields.

All that we study in management and decision making theories today, was actually practised - maybe due to collective instinct for survival - by 18th century Khalsa leadership, which, kept Panthic solidarity in the forefront.

This topic needs much thought and development in future seminars like those organised by the Sikh Research Institute.

Gurmukh Singh
e-mail: sewauk2005@yahoo.co.uk
Copy right: Gurmukh Singh UK
This article may be published or quoted from, with acknowledgement.


Monday, 7 May 2012

Professing Non-Sikh Faith But Married in Gurdwara: Sacred or Sham Marriages?


“Persons professing faiths other than the Sikh faith cannot be joined in wedlock by Anand Karaj ceremony." [The Sikh Reht Maryada Article XVIII item (k)]

(Note: "Sikh view" short articles on this blogspot are in response to briefing queries from organisations and students of Sikh tradition. A holistic view of Sikh Scriptures and mainstream Sikh Reht Maryada is taken. Nevertheless, these articles can only be regarded as one view of Sikh teachings. Discussion about the interpretation of Gurbani and Sikh Reht Maryada through publications and cyber forums is important; more so in view of the lack of research and consistent direction from central Sikh institutions like Akal Takh Sahib and the Shromani Gurdwara Parbandhak Committee.)

The question is, why insist on a religious wedding when a couple cannot agree on one religio-cultural path in married life. In such unions, religion takes low priority or has no place at all. Why not accept that reality from the outset? Why go through one or even two marriage ceremonies at respective places of worship to please parents and religio-social circles on both sides?

With few exceptions, marriages at religious places involving two religious backgrounds, seem to lack the solemn and sacred commitment which needs to be given jointly at the same time and place. Such an interfaith marriage ceremony remains incomplete, even when two religious ceremonies have taken place at the respective places of worship of the two families involved.

I have no intention of defending the sacred cows of any religion. By all means, let religious do’s, don’ts and dogmas, be dumped when no longer felt relevant to own lives. But why go through the falsehood of such weddings at places of worship when religion hardly seems to matter?

Religion must remain relevant to changes in human society by continually re-interpreting its ideology, while guiding the individual towards the ideal physical and spiritual state of harmony, to be able to achieve the goal of this life. Subject to such re-interpretation, any religious ideal is a guiding constant, which must not be abandoned, due simply to secular or social pressures, trends, fashions and fads. The guidance of Guru Granth Sahib is spiritual as well as temporal. That (miri-piri) guidance has given rise to a religious system and a code of conduct over a period of time.

Sikh religion has own guiding principles in married life (gresti or dam-pati jeevan) which are explained during an Anand Karaj – the Sikh ceremony showing the path to a blissful union of two bodies following one Guiding Light.  Gender equality is preached -even if lagging behind in practise! – by stressing “one spiritual light in two human bodies” (ek jyot doay moorti) and respective complementary husband-wife roles in married life. Dharam nibhauna – to do one’s duty towards each other (and other family relationships) is explained. To come to One Guru Granth Sahib, the Word Guru only, and none other, is stressed; and any form of superstition, ritualism and un-Sikh practices, condemned. Service of creation while remaining immersed in Creator awareness (sewa and simran), honest work and sharing with those in need, are shown as the pillars of Sikhi. And so on, life guidance (sikhia) relevant to Anand Karaj ceremony is given.

If only one of the two sitting before Guru Granth Sahib in the presence of the holy congregation (Saadh Sangat), is listening to and accepting this sikhia, then it becomes a form of disrespect to both – Guru Granth Sahib and the Sangat ! It is for that reason that I refuse to attend such sham weddings at gurdwaras. Often, the couple sit before Guru Granth Sahib, giggling and chatting to each other. Depending on pre-wedding briefing and professionalism of the marriage celebrant, non-Sikh parents and party may or may not understand what is going on, or show due respect to the Guru at such weddings. Some sit as indifferent observers at the back of the gurdwara hall, even with legs stretched towards Guru Granth Sahib.

Other religious paths have own guiding principles, which may or may not clash with the Sikh way of life of a householder.

The alternative of a civil marriage is there. If they are so compelled by their residual faith in religion, both sides can visit each other’s places of worship. A prayer can be offered to seek the blessing of the Deity. Also, anyone can organise a langar in a gurdwara for whatever reason.

However, if a religious ceremony is felt to be absolutely necessary, then the couple should have been able to resolve this first matrimonial challenge before the wedding and be able to adopt one religious path for themselves and, in due course, for their children.
There is a vast increase in such “mixed” marriages with parents’ partial or full consent. I am assured that many of such marriages work out very well. On the other hand I am aware that many same-religion marriages are failing. To mix up such arguments with the ceremony of Anand Karaj in Gurdwaras, is to miss the point. The same goes for the argument that Guru Granth Sahib is for all humanity and that the gurdwara is open to all regardless of religion or social background. Anand Karaj is a Khalsa Panth approved religious ceremony for the Sikhs who have total belief in Guru Granth Sahib as the only temporal and spiritual Guide.

If a couple from different religious backgrounds is unable to comply with the Sikh Reht Maryada then the couple and the respective parents should not insist on a Sikh Anand Karaj ceremony. However, the doors of the Gurdwaras are open to all. Anyone can say prayers (Ardaas) and arrange or do langar sewa. Anyone can invite own community to a gurdwara and benefit by listening to the universal egalitarian Message of Guru Granth Sahib, even if their own religion restricts them from complying with that Message fully.

There are many communities like the so called “sehajdhari Sikhs”, the Sindhi Sikh community or just Nanak Naam leva Sikhs like the sikligar/wanjara Sikhs. They do not follow any other religion. Their traditional right to Anand Karaj ceremony can be discussed elsewhere, in that context.

The message of Gurbani is universal and the Sikh institution of the gurdwara is inclusive. However, over the centuries a corporate dimension of Sikh ideology and identity has emerged to defend the faith and the faithful. Great sacrifices have been called for and made. Compromising the corporate aspects of Sikh religion is a slippery slope leading to the loss of ideological independence, and visible identity of the religion.
The family unit is central to the preservation of the ideology and identity of an established world religion like Sikhi(sm).

It is for that reason that the great Gursikh scholars who drafted the Sikh Reht Maryada did not approve marriages before Guru Granth Sahib, when one partner is not fully committed to the Sikh faith.

Gurmukh Singh
Sikh Education Welfare & Advancement (SEWA) network
e-mail: sewauk2005@yahoo.co.uk
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